Writing Beyond Romantic Love

by Pamela Jaye Smith & Kathie Fong Yoneda

You can meet Pamela Jaye Smith and Kathie Fong Yoneda by attending their free class, What's Love Got To Do With It, on Saturday, June 26 at the GAPF! Click HERE for a full schedule, and to RSVP to all classes.

Dear Writer,

We want to help you look for love in all the right places, no matter what the genre or style of your story. We'll be getting into more specifics in our workshop but here are some things to look for and some ways to put the love in all your projects. For the following films we examine the type love in the story, how it is expressed both visually and in dialogue, and then some techniques you can use in your own writing.

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There's a type of love that scales mountains, moves rivers, and changes worlds. This sort of love often breaks up families, ruins careers, and ends in destitution and death. Yet it keeps drawing people into its lure, offering rewards beyond compare in emotional satisfaction, lifelong relationships, and worldly riches. This love is the Love of Adventure. Since the first hominids dropped down from the trees to explore the savannahs, we humans have distinguished ourselves by a desire to know what's around the corner, over the hill, and beyond the stars.

The most recent Star Trek movie offers an excellent example of the Love of Adventure at work in a number of characters, most vividly in that of young James Tiberius Kirk. The first time we see this character (other than as a newborn) he's a cocky ten-year-old racing a Corvette across the Iowa prairies with a space center in the background and a cop in hot pursuit. This visual expression of derring-do sets the tone for Kirk's bravado and deep desire to race off into the Final Frontier.

A line of dialogue that well expresses this Love of Adventure is inherent in all the Star Treks -- "To boldly go where no one has gone before".

Up is another Love of Adventure story that also includes familial love. A widowed septuagenarian and a young latchkey Wilderness Scout take an adventure of a lifetime when the widower attaches thousands of helium balloons onto his old home and heads for Paradise Falls in South America, hoping to fulfill his late wife’s dream.

The balloons are an imaginative and colorful representation of hope… perfect for an animated film. The fact that they are attached to the century-old home that belonged to Carl and his late wife, is the perfect visual pairing to represent the old man’s desire to break free from his grief and to finally fulfill the dream of adventure that he and his wife once shared.

Like Star Trek, this movie also has a brief line of dialogue that captures the spirit of most of the characters, from Carl and his wife Ellie, to the boy Russell, the disgraced adventurer Muntz, and even the dog Dug and the bird Kevin - “Adventure is out there!”

Especially in animation, it’s important to bring more visuals into your writing to enable the reader (agent/producer/exec) to really “see” your vision as an animated property and not as live action. You can do this using color as well as sounds (remember to put sounds in CAPS). However, be careful not to become so involved in your descriptions that it overwhelms the reader and you lose the pacing and focus on the story and its characters. Animated movies which are especially adept in combining visuals and dialogue as well as heart-felt stories include Toy Story, The Incredibles, Shrek, Happy Feet, Ratatouille, 9, and WALL-E.

By its very nature a story about the Love of Adventure is big. Wide vistas, far horizons, dangerous heights, gloomy corridors, raucous jungles. The environment is often the object of the protagonist's affections, so its descriptions should be strong and compelling. Using words like "draw in", "vast", "frontier", "vista", "challenge", "breath-taking", "daring", "dangerous", etc. will give your reader a sense of how the characters feel when they are in the settings you describe.

A story about the Love of Adventure should inspire us to dust off our passports, pack our pith helmets, and set out for the vast unknown.

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Just as there are all sorts of love besides Romantic Love, there are many variations of Romantic Love itself. Two interesting versions of this type of Romantic Passion are those that strike early, burn strong, and last forever and those that strike late but burn high and hot. The former is explored in The Notebook and the latter in Something's Gotta Give.

Romantic Passion is by its very nature not Romantic without obstacles and the painful but delicious yearning that striving to overcome them creates. What makes these stories interesting is the nature of the obstacles. In The Notebook the obstacles are class differences and familial expectations. Romeo and Juliet is the most famous of these star-crossed couples; others include Tristan and Isolde, Gatsby and Daisy, and Viola and Will in Shakespeare in Love. There are also shades of the Beauty and the Beast theme here in that two people who seemingly do not belong together overcome societal and cultural barriers via love. GAPF

The visual technique in this film is the use of the house as a metaphor for the love between Noah and Allie. Just as Noah transforms the big old house by his craft and attention, so too does love transform both Allie and him.

In dialogue Noah well expresses the transformative power of love: "The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds."

A technique you can use is to find a metaphor for the Romantic Love of your characters. It could be a house like in The Notebook, a play like in Shakespeare in Love, a political cause as in Reds and The Way We Were, or a big cultural clash as in Avatar.

As humans live longer, romance and sex are not just relegated to youth anymore. Not that they ever were, but the media focus on youth that has held sway for some time is dissolving as millions of mature people continue to have vibrant, passionate relationships. And they want to see stories about themselves, so we'll probably see even more of this type of Romance.

In Something's Gotta Give the obstacle is one character's immaturity and the other's aloofness. 60-something Harry is dating Marin (30 years younger). Hoping to consummate their relationship, they drive to Marin’s mom’s beach house . Their plans are interrupted when Erica (Marin’s mom) and her sister Zoe arrive. Attempting to be “civil”, the four decide the beach house is large enough for all to “do their own thing”. While in the throes of foreplay with Marin, Harry has a heart attack and Erica gives him CPR. While recovering at Erica's house, they settle into a surprisingly easy truce, both realizing they may have met their match since both seem to “get” each other.

Stones become a clever visual of opposites co-existing. Walking along the beach, Erica picks up a white stone and Harry notices she collects entire jars of white stones. He picks up a brown one and gives it to her: “Something to remember me by.” Later, Harry spots a jar of white stones with his brown stone on top. When Harry returns to NYC, Erica hands him a jar of brown stones with a white one on top signaling the parallel idea of each of them stepping into the other's lives.

Dialogue reveals Harry's arc when he admits, “Turns out the heart attack was easy to get over…you were somethin’ else. I finally get what it’s all about…I’m 63 and I’m in love for the first time in my life.”

Sex and lust can certainly be powerful, but real Romantic Passion is transformative, dissolving the barriers of the individual self and giving us glimpses of paradise. Whether in a drama or a comedy, you will serve a story of Romantic Passion well if you reveal in both images and dialogue this sometimes seemingly magical transformation of character.

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A popular theme in comedies these days is the BFF – Best Friends Forever. This relationship can be among guys, girls, or a mix. The Ya-Ya Sisterhood features girls, My Best Friend's Wedding mixes genders, and The Hangover has at its core a group of guys. The characteristics of BFF Love tested by the chaos in the story are typically personal loyalty and the longevity of the relationship.

In The Hangover Groom-to-be Doug and his friends Phil (married, 2 kids, teacher), Stu (dentist, with a controlling girlfriend) and Alan (Doug’s future brother-in-law) head to Las Vegas for a Bachelor Party at Caesar’s Palace. They awaken the next morning to find the suite has been trashed, there’s a live tiger in the bathroom, a baby in the closet, Doug is missing, Stu has a cheap wedding ring on his finger, and no one can remember what happened. They have 13 hours to retrace their steps, find Doug, and get back to LA in time for the wedding.

The City of Las Vegas acts as a visual metaphor with its sense of wild chaos, bright lights, and promises of non-stop fun. Vegas acts as a “prison” as Phil, Stu and Alan attempt to find out what happened to them in the previous 10 hours and to locate Doug before they can leave Sin City.

In a fun twist of using dialogue from the outside, in an almost narrative form, mocking them is Vegas’ motto: “What happens in Vegas, Stays in Vegas” – if only they knew what did happen in Vegas, then they could actually leave Vegas!

An effective technique in this kind of ensemble story is to really play up the contrasts amongst the characters using dialogue, clothing, background/culture. If your characters have known each other for awhile, think of ways you can bring up backstory in a comedic, but telling way. Check out movies like Pineapple Express, Bad Boys, Men in Black, Rush Hour, Tango & Cash, and 48 Hours.

Comedy is often funniest when it's poking fun at things we take seriously. The entire movie Tropic Thunder pokes good fun at the excessive movie-making process, the ginormous egos, the artistic pretensions, the false bonhomie of film set friendships. Mostly it pokes fun at the often blind Love of the Muse, in this case acting. Many actors (as well as writers, musicians, dancers, and other artists) liken their dedication to the Muse of their profession to the obsessions of a passionate love affair.

From the very beginning the difference between Robert Downey Jr's Award-winning, deep, serious actor and Ben Stiller's shallow robotic box-office movie star is played up. Yet both have a gripping love of acting. Stiller's character is the desperately courting would-be lover striving to become worthy of his beloved yet elusive Muse. Downey's character is so wrapped up in his tempestuous affair with a role he brags that he doesn't break character until after he's done the DVD commentary.

The visual expression of Downey's Love of Acting is his physical appearance. He plays a blue-eyed, blond-haired Australian actor playing a black soldier, so he's had his skin dyed, wears dark contacts and an Afro wig. His character affects a 1970s "street" dialogue, much to the disdain of an actual black actor on the cast.

His dialogue reflects his total mutual embrace of the Muse in his defiant affirmation, "I know what dude I am. I'm the dude playin' the dude, disguised as another dude!"

The payoff of this setup is when he takes off the wig, removes the contacts, breaks into Aussie slang, and reveals himself as the vulnerable actor who actually supports other actors on the show, even in the midst of severe physical danger.

A technique you can use is to show your character totally embracing their Muse in their wardrobe, hair, style of movement, style of dialogue. Watch other films about artists to see how the art itself affects their lifestyle from their very core to their interactions with the rest of the world. Stage Beauty, Shakespeare in Love, Pollock, and Adaptation are good examples of characters totally transformed by the Love of the Muse.

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In this article we've looked at just a few of the many answers to the question of "What's Love Got To Do With It?" Join us in our GAPF class on Saturday June 26th from 9-10:30am to learn more about how to put the Love in your plotline, how to bring the Love out in your characters, and how to seduce your audience to Love your stories.

PAMELA JAYE SMITH is an Author, Consultant, Speaker, and award-winning Producer/Director. She is the author of THE POWER OF THE DARK SIDE, INNER DRIVES, and SYMBOLS, IMAGES & CODES. Pamela is the founder of MYTHWORKS and co-founder of Alpha Babe Academy. Her story consulting covers all the standards plus specialities in mythology, the military, metaphysics, and Masonry. www.pamelajayesmith.com.

KATHIE FONG YONEDA is a consultant, workshop leader and author of THE SCRIPT-SELLING GAME: A Hollywood Insider’s Look at Getting Your Script Sold and Produced, 2nd edition to be published in early 2011. A former studio exec, Kathie has worked with several award-winning writers and has given workshops in over a dozen countries worldwide. She also teaches an online class for Writers University and co-exec produced the cable series Beyond the Break. www.kathiefongyoneda.com